My Life’s Inspiration

Assalammu’alaikum wr. wb.

I always ask to myself, what is my purpose in life? This is a life of an ordinary person, a life that is far from glamour, a life that no one ever imagine. Well I have a quite lists of those now, but perhaps only a few seem within my grasp.

When I work on my computer, I saw status updates from various people in the social networks (say twitter or facebook), some are meaningful others are not, some are talking about having difficulty of sleeping, some talk about small things (sometimes angry stuff), some say words of prayer,  it’s like a beautiful noise. But even if it’s far from a purpose of this life, I guess what important is that it matters.  The virtual world makes me able to see what people really care about.

Reflection is a big word for me.  I try to look at a mirror of me and see myself through, but sometimes I just can’t see easily, and I have a blurry kind of dream.  A dream I would never have when I was small.  It is very uneasy when you need to turn back around looking, I never know until people start helping me remember.  It is a good thing to have a little perspective from others; since on the virtual world we never felt intimidated by others, it is far distant from real face to face contact.  I guess having face to face contact is becoming rather tedious today, when I don’t wanna say the truth, I just put a seal on my mouth (though my heart telling me to be honest), suppressing the unpleasant facts. In virtual world, you aren’t afraid to criticize or scold or praise others easily, I envision the virtual world will turn into the real things somehow, but it has to be in a better way.

My reflection so far is my flesh & blood, called family. My daily life today has moved tremendously fast, and I can’t somehow deny this.  Once in a blue sky, I prefer going back to the basic, that’s when you are disconnected from the virtual world. Disconnected makes me able to think fresh, to see the world as is, even though sometimes I felt a little bit old fashion.

It was like last night when I accompanied my friend, a mature confident profile I would say, she is not even close to my average age, but she still has a dream doing things with her own creation that may help making people life to improve, so inspiring.

Though, I have mine, but it’s really far from perfect.  I just got the impression that by helping someone else on doing whatever she/he does best, it’s like I am helping myself (through unconscious mind ).

wallahua’lam bi showaab

Insya Allah my life still goes on…

Reaching Out Life

Assalammu’alaikum Wr. Wb. (Peace be upon Thou all)

This present day, I guess I have arrived @ a time in my life, a rosier (or even bleak in opposite, I hope not)  time I’ve never even thought that I could be part of, before.  I’ve been becoming a member of my family for quite sometimes, a small family I would say, and even though it has been my own for quite sometimes, more than 6 years from my weeding ceremony, it was like yesterday. Would “yesterday” be good or bad thing, I’d rather keep it personal.

I was beginning to realize that on every wedding of my member of so called “my big family” I attended, always thinking that every moment in my life, I felt the life path on ward isn’t going always to be easy.  Every time I walk thru that path, it seems that I was feeling unfamiliar to it, it’s like I had never been there before. It’s like I’m lost thru that path of time, a precious one I’d rather say.

I’ve heard one guru mentioned there was a big different between “winners” and “losers”.  Losers are likely to complain on bad things happened surrounding their lives, but the opposites are also true, these people are striving to make their goals to be fulfilled, the most desired one in their lives.  There is no short cut or special prescription on life, it is only what we have chosen to do or not do.

I was definitely aware that the past would never return to us in any way, but sometimes I forgot (overwhelmed by it) that the future is awaiting. I believe that I, with all my insight’s limitation, can do much better, to achieve something in my life, something about happiness, and I believe on doing it

I also heard that the biggest defeat in my life is whenever I put aside the most precious asset  I only have.  The precious asset would be The Qur’an,  the holy book I should always refer to, The only one I always rely on as the book of prayer & the source of ultimate knowledge.

I saw the great people from the past, I witnessed  good people in the present, but I hope I’ll be one of them  someday.

My biggest enemy, perhaps, would be myself, cause  every time I would rather do or not do is because I wanted to, not because what others had to say about it.  May be, I was not strong enough to realize that life is all about what I chose doing or not doing.  I was too afraid of the consequences, afraid that people I love will leave me, and never got a chance to apologize of what I’ve done wrong.

Perhaps, I’m too weak or too dull to understand what the good things I’m supposed to do or follow, or even worse, too ungrateful for others done to me.  I don’t have a very good recollection but I think I may just try my best of my ability to be thankful to the God since He, the only one, has given me so much in this life.  If I was given more chances (or being smarter on realizing them) perhaps I would ‘ve done more and be thankful even more.

I ponder I should make more efforts on my daily prayer so I can be more thoughtful of my life.

I predict my path to happiness is not even close to simple, it’s full with bad enticement, covered by obstacles, and more importantly fooled by self laziness. To be honest, it’s not what I paid to myself that makes me happy but what we have given up to others, so than others are happy, eventually it will make me happy.

Well, I imagine that I am in process of learning and listening to others what they got to say about reaching a goal in life.  In short, I still got time and it’s better to use it wisely cause it’ll certainly will run out.

So cheers, and enjoy my life I guess…

wallahua’lam bishowab

Can Happiness Bring Money, Then?

Assalammu’alaikum Wr. Wb. (Was: Lanjutan tulisan Does Money Bring Happiness?

Kebahagiaan tidak datang melalui resep dokter walaupun ada sebagian orang yang mengkonsumsi obat2an anti depressants terutama yang mengalami sakit mental, namun obat-obat tersebut tidak akan membantu memberikan kebahagiaan

Salah satu jalan menuju kebahagiaan adalah melalui yang disebut “flow” yaitu melalui kegiatan yang menyenangkan menurut psykolog Mihaly Csikzentmihalyi seperti yang ditemukan pada seorang atlit, pemusik, penulis, pemain game, dan pelaku keagamaan, mereka semuanya dapat merasakan persaan tersebut.  Kebahagiaan datang terasa lebih sedikit pada apa yang anda lakukan dibandingkan bagaimana anda melakukannya.

Sonja Lyubormisky peneliti dari universitas california menyarankan kita untuk membuat sebuah daftar berisisi segala sesuatu yang membuat anda bahagia di dalam hidup kita, seperti melakukan perbuatan baik kepada orang lain, memaafkan orang-orang yang  anda anggap musuh atau yang berperilaku buruk, menghargai kesengan-kesenangan kecil dalam hidup, memperhatikan kesehatan anda, berlatih untuk selalu dapat berpikiran positif, dan memanfaatkan waktu dan tenaga lebih untuk hubungan persahabatan serta hubungan  bersama  keluarga.  Menurutnya, biasanya orang yang paling bahagia adalah orang yang memiliki persahabatan yang kuat

Penelitian menunjukkan bahwa seseorang yang berterima kasih, optimis, dan pemaaf mendapatkan pengalaman lebih baik dengan kehidupannya, lebih bahagia, tidak mudah terkena serangan stroke, dan mendapatkan income lebih tinggi! Dan apabila orang tersebut membuat dunia menjadi lebih baik, maka hal itu adalah bonus dari kehidupannya.

Diener juga mengatakan berdasarkan data yang dikoleksinya, dia mengevaluasi kebahagiaan pada orang-orang yang menjadi obyek penelitiannya, biasanya memiliki sistem immune (baca: pertahanan tubuh) terhadap penyakit lebih baik, menjadi warga yang baik pada pekerjaannya, mendapatkan income lebih baik, kondisi perkawinan yang lebih baik, lebih sosial, dan lebih tabah dalam menghadapi berbagai macam kesulitan hidup.

Sebaliknya, ketidakbahagiaan menurut Easterbrook dari Brooking Insititute adalah merupakan kondisi default (baca: kondisi given dalam kehidupan) karena sebenarnya untuk tidak bahagia seseorang tidak dibutuhkan untuk melakukan apapun dibandingkan dengan orang yang ingin bahagia.

Jika kita ingin menemukan hal-hal yang kita keluhkan, dengan mudah kita akan menemukannya.  Dibutuhkan usaha keras untuk mendapatkan kebahagiaan di dalam kehidupan, sayangnya kebanyakan orang tidak melakukannya.  Seseorang lebih suka melalui kehidupan yang tidak sulit karena sebenarnya lebih mudah menjadi tidak bahagia dibandingkan dengan menjadi bahagia.

Insya Allah bersambung…